i think there are types of behavior, n people do tend to follow their genetic disposition n upbringing - nature n nurture - but if ye wanna change bad enough, if it means that much to ye, anything's prolly possible - but yeah, there are the basic stereotypes, not in stone, but categories - like in high school, ye got the brains n nerds n jocks n cheerleaders n basket-cases n criminals, but like it sez in breakfast club: we're, all of us, all of these things simultaneously
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jus defindin himself, prolly, against what he may perceive as discrimination - most people are horribly insecure, but refuse to ever let it show - some guys will say anything to get laid, so this whole defensive posture developed on the female side that actually prevents honest nice guys from being very successful jus bein honest nice guys
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well, it all depends on yer value system, mixed with re upbringing, n talents n interests etc - how ye dress, who ye like, what ye think is important, how ye think the world should work, as in instead of how it works now etc - all this determines a slot to pigeon hole society seems to want us put into, but only cuz the rhetoric generalizes to define a vastly indefinable concept, to get to the point of any of the many issues that may pertain to it in daily life n conversation - the result is that we have this kinda covert mindset that prevents us from ever really dealing with each other as unique individuals, even those close to us, but especially strangers, which thus increases the distance
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see, people are still afraid of other people mostly - n we have n use all these techniques to get what we want from relationships, even if it's just a stranger on the bus - say, me a small wimpy guy, wants a seat on the bus, but basically, if the bus is crowded, I�m not gonna get one, unless i look real fuckin tired n there are kind people on board, big guys get their way over me all the time - but yer a pretty girl, only people who deny you anything are people who may be jealous or irrationally hate that about people in general - but sometimes, i imagine, people may try to get over on you - so you develop barriers to shield ye from the riff raff - we all do that to varying degrees to get by in the world with the least amount of pain and/or frustration - here, where i live, in the south, it's almost a religion, never drifting away from yer own kind - as in many primitive cultures, but maybe exclusive would be a better word, but it is primitive in relationship planes - the thing to remember is that we are all just scared little kids - some're naughty, soime're nice
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but what they don teach us about interacting with us - in fact, reinforce the opposite, n barriers against discovering the obvious - is simply that the right one for us is elusive as our stability over ourselves - the truth is that we can hang with anyone if we're both secure in our own personal identity
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right - well, lovey dovey high school dream date type of relationships never last in an evolving species - n they make us feel like it's our fault if shit don work out - many divorces are completely amicable, this is healthy - it only goes to show ye: it's always something
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fidelity is also an illusion - it's human nature to relate to each other, n we're very sexual beings - we can't let stigmas n jealousies of our primitive forebears dictate how we live our lives today, cuz they were totally unprepared n uneducated in the ways of the human search - to grow, one must experience life - i watch alotta tv, n now i know when people disrespect me
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- as opposed to before, when i was conditioned to believe i deserved to be treated like shit, but not allowed to reciprocate, or even question
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yep, that's why everyone's still so freaked out - even tho mosta the real problems, that people get so upset about, are totally solvable nowadays